Next Level Gift Guide: For the Men in Your Life

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When it comes to gifts I am always looking for that perfect thing to bring surprise and or that happy light into the gift receiver’s face. I do my utmost best to find something the person always wanted but never bit the bullet to purchase. Those are the best gifts as they show the person you were truly listening to them even in a time they may have not even realized they were talking out loud. The giving part as well as the happiness it may bring to this gift receiver is what brings joy to my heart.

That being said the men in my life are the absolute hardest to read when it comes to finding them the ultimate gift. While great gifts most of the time, I wanted to think out of the box instead of the typical gifts given to men such as golfing, grilling, and tool related gifts.

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Gym Items:

Are those dirty stinky gym shoes festering in the corner of his room. Many guys get their full use out of their gym clothes, shoes, and gear, but find themselves too busy to go out and get more. These make great gifts to boost his mood for going to the gym.

Does he work out at home? Maybe there is gear he needs to help improve his home gym capabilities. Get him a TRX this is a total body home gym created in the Navy. It uses your bodyweight and gravity to give you an ultimate workout by incorporating suspension type exercise. TRX Training – Suspension Trainer Basic Kit + Door Anchor, Complete Full Body Workouts Kit for Home and on the Road

Audio Books

Audio Books:

You’ve still got to love those page turner books, but men do not always have time for them in their busy schedule. Whether it’s jumping between work, kids, or hobbies,men tend to need to make use of whatever time they have to enjoy a good book. Commutes, Road trips, heck even getting fifteen minutes in with a good book could be a great deal for your busy Guy. Get him an audiobook or a subscription to audible.com Try Audible and Get Two Free Audiobooks. Where he can pick out his own thrill of an audio book depending on his favorite categories.

Hey maybe even a good audio book could be just the distraction to get him through his morning run. Sometimes when you’re a busy guy like my dad, it’s all about the multi-tasking. Why not get some enjoyment out of what might otherwise be a mundane time of his day.

On Audible.com he can join the program depending on his listening needs and pick out audio books each month based on his subscription. As well as get discounts on extra books. Try Audible and Get Two Free Audiobooks

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Camping & Gear:

When I grew up camping was in a tent, a fire with marshmallows and self-carved roasting sticks, restroom off in the woods, and cooking food in a can over the fire. These days there are so many cool gadgets to optimize the trip it’s hard to pass them up. Does caffeine fuel your man? If he had the MiniPresso GR Espresso Maker he would be sure to wake up spry and ready for that sunrise hike. He wouldn’t have to wait for the old over the fire percolator to get percolating.

Maybe true camping is not your man’s #1 priority? Get him a cabin “glamping trip” by searching the getaways category on Groupon you’re sure to find him a less outdoorsy intense trip. https://www.groupon.com/

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Subscription Box:

It seems like subscription boxes are all the rage these days. With anything ranging from make-up products, workout gear, healthy snacks, to books being sent like a little surprise straight to your door, it’s no question they are addicting and fun. While it seems like the boxes are geared more towards women there are men’s subscription boxes out there as well.

You may think a month to month cost for a one time gift is a little over your budget, but the subscription box I am about to suggest has a few different sized boxes that range in prices. You can choose to gift one box or if your budget allows have two or three boxes show up at your favorite man’s door. Once you’ve used up your budget just cancel or pass along the subscription to the gift receiver to keep enjoying on his own dime. https://battlbox.com/ is a kick butt subscription box geared towards men.

With tactical and survival gear themed boxes, that change from box to box, they are sure to please your hunting, camping, fishing, prepping, outdoor, “soon to be survivalist” Guy in your life. Just don’t be surprised if you find him camping in the back yard the same night his box arrives just so he can try out all the cool gear immediately.

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Groupon Activities & Get Aways

Sometimes he just wants to get away, or go try a hobby he has always wanted to try but he never got around to. More often than not men do not speak their minds about wanting to do new activities or getaway for the weekend, but they enjoy it. Is the guy you’re shopping for in a different town or state than you? Perfectly fine you can shop Groupon near them and find a archery lesson, boxing experience, even a zipline tour without having to do all the searching yourself of the local area. Groupon does it for you. https://www.groupon.com/

Groupon discounts to take advantage of for a limited time only:
6/19: $5 off $20, $10 off $40, $15 off $60, $30 off $100 with code OFF.
6/18: Gift Dad – very last minute! Extra 20% off with HURRY20!

I hope this list helped spark an idea for a man in your life. Whether it is your dad, husband, son, or another family member, these gifts will help him pursue a hobby or passion he might be missing and give him a surprise he may not have been expecting.

Meet Your New Hobby: Candle Making Edition

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You walk into a room and the scent of apple pie engulfs your nostrils. Is someone baking? No, that scrumptious smell is coming from a jar of wax precisely portioned with scent and color to draw on multiple senses. While I use candles to change my mood, because who doesn’t enjoy torturing their stomachs and taste buds with a good old cinnamon bun scented candle? Many use candles to drown out other scents. A stinky bed room, living room, or the infamous bathroom that was just stink “bombed” by that one guy or girl (yes girls poop too) at work. Whatever they’re used for, they have a distinct reputation of giving a better fragrance to the room for any occasion.

I can admit I am a bit obsessed with them. I can’t walk past a person’s desk without picking up their non-burning candle just to get a whiff of the smell. So… much like my solution for my obsession with shopping at target I decided it might be more “cost efficient” to join the team. Yes, I got a job at Target to get a discount because I liked shopping the clearance end caps so much, and with the same reasoning I decided to commit to make my own candles in hopes to not spend so much money on them.

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The Kit

There is something about a “kit” that makes beginning a hobby seem much easier. Rather than fumbling around from the start making sure I have all the tools I need, If I can buy that one box of things that provides me with all the starter tools I am more likely to do it.  When I received my candle making kit for Christmas I was hopeful in starting my new projects. I imagined all the scents I could mix and match even who I could gift them to. See 5 Ways To Start Your Hobby With A Discount to see more about how I get my hobby supplies without breaking the bank.

When I opened the box and started pulling the pieces to my candle kit out, a fear of difficulty overwhelmed me. There was my childhood self, doubting the hobby before I even started it. If you want to read more about my silly childhood self check out 6 Reasons To Stop Doubting Your Hobby Pursuit

Pushing through this thought I began reading the directions and they were simple. The kit provided all the tools to create a simple candle and described how to do it quite well.

The kit included:

  • Wax
  • Wicks
  • Vanilla Scent
  • 3 glass jars
  • A double boiler
  • Thermometer
  • Stir sticks

This was, in my impression, a very good kit for a beginner candle maker. Here is a link to the one I have Soy Essentials Scented Candle Making Kit

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Extra supplies or refilling

A major thing about this hobby like many “well established” hobbies is they dedicate most of if not an entire aisle at the craft store to its supplies. So you will never have to search high and low to find what you need. If you live near a Hobby Lobby you can also find many refill items there and the benefit of Hobby Lobby is they have 50% off sales on these products very often. Not to mention they have an ongoing 40% off your single most expensive item at all times if you can pull it up on your smartphone. There is of course Amazon  to help you find the out of the ordinary parts to put your own twist on this hobby. When just starting a hobby I like to find the items quick, get to experimenting, and then bring in the full blown operation later. Which is why getting a kit like this gets me moving forward quicker with my hobby. Soy Essentials Scented Candle Making Kit

Along with my kit I wanted to try other scents so I purchased a peach-mango, apple pie, and lavender scent. Here is a great scent kit to start yourself off with other scents too Fragrance Oil Sampler Set With Bonus Oil- Green Apple, Clean Cotton, Vanilla, Cinnamon and Bonus Berry Cobbler- Scents For Candle Making and Soap Making- Works in Diffusers, Warmers As well as a different style of wick that is made with wood to create a fire wood burning type sound.Wood wick- Genuine Wooden Wicks for Candle Making DIY Candle 50 Sets – Brown, 15cmx1.25cm

Upcycling a possibility

Another plus about this hobby is a lot of times you can find jars, the vessels for holding your candles, just around your house. Did you use up the last of that spaghetti sauce or eat your last pickle? Well there is a perfectly good jar that, after some cleaning, can be re-purposed into a candle container. Just make sure you clean them thoroughly otherwise you could be gifting a pickle scented candle to your Aunt Susie.

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Besides the obvious benefit of getting to have as many candles as you want there are several other reasons candle making can be a great hobby.

  1. Gifts to others
  2. Several ways to grow your skill
  3. Can experience with others
  4. Time frame for this hobby can be short or extended
  5. Easy set up and take down

Recently I have noticed that all my friends and family have purchased wax melting units which eliminate the burning of a wick at all. You just plop a scented wax cube or beads in to the cup and it heats them to melted form to dispense the scent. This I love! As you can plug these vessels in, turn them on and not have to worry about an open flame. So I have ventured into creating these non-wick waxes.

I got my mom a diffuser like this one for christmas, and then made the scented wax melts with my kit for her.  Candle Warmers Etc. Pluggable Wax Warmer, Fragrance Releasing Decorative Plug-In Nightlight Warmer, Moroccan Metal .She loved the half homemade half purchased gift.

It was extremely simple to make these wax melts with my silicone heart shaped ice mold. You could find different shapes of ice mold to appease the different personalities in your life. With just a tiny bit of oil to line the ice molds the wax popped right out of the mold perfectly shaped once dry. Here is a kit of ice molds a lot like mine with a couple different shapes included.Silicone Molds- SENHAI 3 Pack Candy, Chocolate Molds Ice Cube Trays – Hearts, Stars & Shells, Fun, Toy Kids Set

A major thing I like about beginning candle making is wax is re-meltable so I could experiment a little before determining I was happy with my finished product.

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Playing with this hobby I not only found a new appreciation to the store bought candle in my living room, I learned a lot of do’s and don’ts throughout the process. It is not as simple as I thought to properly boil wax, plop some scent in, and place a wick to create exceptionally smelling candle I desire, but it is also not difficult to get started. So this is the exact reason I like it I am still challenged to find the right portion of scent to wax, and continue to research new ways to scent a candle. There are several versions of candle I have yet to venture in to yet and look forward to taking those next steps. I am no pro at this hobby but in my experience if this sounds fun to you do not hesitate to get started. Candle making can be a great way to make money if you pursue it far enough, and with all the different types of candles there is always a new challenge around the corner.

If you’ve decided candle making is not your thing, check out my blog on whom in your life can help inspire your hobby at 5 People To Inspire Your Hobby or stay tuned for my next hobby trial to see if that might be your calling.

6 Reasons To Stop Doubting Your Hobby Pursuit

 

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Who needs a Hobby?

I do I do. I need a hobby badly. If you’re anything like me you might need one too!

In my late twenties I have realized I need something better than Netflix to pass the free time, something I can engage my mind on and keep me striving for more. There are a lot of times that I am perusing Pinterest and find a project I would love to tackle. Time after time I begin to research how to begin this project and talk myself out of it. This is because I either cannot find enough information on it to get started, I can’t find a solution to the initial questions I want to ask, or I information overload myself. By asking the questions that so many new hobbyists may want answers to before starting I am hopeful in this pursuit to find my passion, and hopefully help others along the way. Whether it stays a hobby or grows into a career, a hobby should keep a person dreaming about always growing their chosen skill.

Let’s rewind, growing up I attempted tons of hobbies. Not to be vain, but I was “pretty good” at all of them. When I say pretty good I mean I was never picked last in Gym class, but I was also never picked first. No matter what I tried I was good at and then I quit, never committing to it. The list of things I have tried could go on forever so I won’t bore you with it all. I tried several instruments, sports, 4-H, etc. I would drop out when it came to the point of improvement. I was good at all of them but if pushing harder, improving my skill level became a factor to move forward I gave up. For example I made it to a third degree purple belt in karate, but to move on to a brown belt I required more discipline and a louder “Kia”. Yes, that loud sound you hear after powerful karate stance is made…I would not do it loud enough. That is what stood between me and my Karate growth. My shyness got the best of me most of the time, and the rest was pure stubbornness, but the truth is I just haven’t found what I am truly passionate about yet.

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Growing up in a small town I tried just about every hobby to keep me entertained but they were all so generic and I lost interest. I was never that person who knew my passion from a young age. Many things intrigued me but nothing kept my attention long.

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I have a good job but it is not fulfilling my full happiness or potential. Crunching numbers is not exactly the most interesting topic to bring up in a conversation. Most people fake a fever and run out of the room when they hear I like math. I needed something to dream about and keep me striving for further knowledge. This is why I have decided to try hobbies, as many as I can, to experience them first hand and ask the questions many ask themselves, or should ask themselves, before starting a hobby. I guess you could say my hobby will be trying hobbies, and I will dedicate myself to this hobby so I can prove my juvenile self-wrong. To do this I had to stop talking myself out of things I wanted to do and start saying yes to more opportunities. Below is a list of typical excuses and how not to make them anymore.

I finally stopped talking myself out of things I want to do and this is how:

  1. YOU WERE YOUNG AND NAIVE

The first time you started that hobby maybe it was at an age where when someone told you what to do you did the opposite. Maybe your parents gave you an ultimatum like “It’s either hobby A or hobby B.”, and you did not get much choice of the matter besides choosing between the two. Leaving a bitter memory of hobbies in your mind.

Don’t let someone pushing you to do something cloud your vision of that thing. Once you open your mind to it you may discover it’s really interesting or fun. Leave the past in the past and try that hobby with a new attitude.

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  1. MORE CONS THAN PROS

Sure you did some research and scoured the internet for information on this hobby you wanted to start, and after hour’s even days of research you found more cons than pros. That shouldn’t always talk you out of it unless you discovered without a doubt you would not like that hobby. If your pros look enticing and your cons are just things that scare you then try that hobby. You have to push through the things that scare you to find what truly makes you happy. If you spend too much time researching you may come out more confused than when you started, so just start that hobby and defeat the “cons” as you go.

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  1. IT COSTS MONEY

Sure money can be a huge factor when it comes to wanting to start a hobby, especially if you’re living paycheck to paycheck. Like in number two it might be that major “con” that’s keeping you from trying your hobby out, but there is always a way if you’re willing to put a little effort to it. There are ways to relieve the money part and I have listed them out in my post about 5 Ways To Start Your Hobby With A Discount

  1. YOU’VE HAD TOO MANY TRIAL HOBBIES

You’re worried this one is just going to be another failed hobby? I used to stress whenever my husband started a new hobby, as his hobbies always required a lot of initial investment (Money!) and I have a habit of being frugal, even when there is no need to be. Today I have a different attitude about all of his trial hobbies because like my younger self above each and every one of these hobbies he has tried has given him different wisdom and knowledge and helps him in his day to day interactions at work or in his social life. He can provide an unusual perspective of problem solving skills for work and more to converse about at a party which can only excel him in life. Plus by using some of the hobby discount pointers listed in blog 5 Ways To Start Your Hobby With A Discount we have even been able to make more money back than what we spent on some of his hobby equipment.

  1. YOU DO NOT WANT TO DO IT ALONE

It’s like the excuse needing a gym buddy to go to the gym, but in reality your gym buddy is already there you just have to go find them. Just like the blogging community there are communities out there doing that hobby you are interested in. There is something about having that buddy to enjoy things with. Well until you find your community maybe find your favorite Youtuber doing that same hobby or follow boards on Pinterest. There are still ways to find a sense of community without immediately having to converse with a real life person. If you want to jump right in to find your community in person there are apps like Meet Up or check out your local Facebook groups that have easy ways to connect with your local community in your niche.

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  1. NOT KEEPING AN OPEN MIND

I have missed out on a lot of possibly great experiences, assuming I would not like it and not even giving it a second thought. If it’s not going to hurt you why not say yes to an experience the worst that could happen is you can come out of it saying “ I tried that, and I did not like it.” rather than having saying no and  regretting it later. The more you try things the more wisdom you have for the next experience in life.

Hopefully these tips will help you next time you doubt your next opportunity, and keep you encouraged to just start. Stop talking yourself out of those hobbies.

Do you have a success story? Have you made your hobby your passion or did you know from a young age who you were going to be and who you wanted to be? I sure didn’t but I would love to hear from both ends of the spectrum. Were you like me unsure of what you wanted to be in your future? Is there anyone out there who shared in the same struggle to find your passion as me, what pushed you to finally tackle your dream? I want hear from you in the comments below.

5 Ways To Start Your Hobby With A Discount

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I am no extreme couponer or penny pincher, but if you’re a person like me who often pursues new and different hobbies, it can’t hurt to learn to save money when and where you can. There are some tips and tricks you pick up to save what you can on new projects.

Although I did have a moment at the grocery store where the one item I had a coupon for also was buy one get one free and seriously considered extreme couponing as a new hobby due to the excited rush it gave me, I haven’t quite worked up the drive it takes to take that on yet. I have however learned to take a discount or get my money’s worth out the resources easily accessible to everyone.

Below I have listed some simple ways to save money when you are beginning your hobby or pursuing it further.

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Use your Birthday or Christmas

If what’s holding you back is spending all the money it takes to get in to a hobby. Then put those items on your gift list for the next holiday. As an adult I typically have a hard time thinking of gifts I want for these holidays anyways as I am usually content with my basic necessities. This is when a new hobby item comes in handy because you do not have to spend the money on it and the person gifting you the gift can be sure they are getting you something you want.

Another way to use your birthday to save money includes certain points programs you sign up for at stores will ask for a birth date. A lot of times if this is provided they will send you a birthday discount. I do not always sign up for these points programs at stores because just about every store has them and I would not be able to keep a bag large enough to keep all the program cards, but it can’t hurt a thing to sign up at your favorite most shopped stores.

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Groupon or Living Social

The people who know me well call me out as the Groupon queen. While it’s not always from https://www.groupon.com/ that I find my deals or coupons, but that is what my friends and family think. I am constantly stating “There is something on Groupon for that!” sort of like the saying “There’s an app for that” it’s not that I am constantly searching Groupon for everyday use coupons or discounts, but I do search for gifts, hobby, and outing ideas. I have a skill of absorbing the knowledge of what other people want or need and end up finding deals for that on Groupon so I make a mental note to share it with them. That is why I am called the Groupon queen because in their eye’s I must come home and scour Groupon for everything because I am always talking about it.

These sites can provide a great way to start your new hobby at a discount. It’s how I got started in archery because I found a majorly discounted lesson, and equipment rental. There are so many options from food, sports, local events, and fun. I even search it when we travel to find outings where ever we visit.

If you’re not familiar with https://www.groupon.com/ or Living Social they are platforms that offer the ability for typically local businesses to advertise for themselves by also providing great discounts. This allows the consumer to see what’s local and check it out for an awesome price, as well as provides an easy convenient way to purchase online.

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Recurring Coupons:

Many hobby stores like Hobby Lobby and Michaels have recurring percent off coupons. Most the time you can even pull these coupons up on your phone right in the checkout line as you wait. Hobby Lobby for example does a percent off your most expensive item, so if I need multiple items for my hobby I’ll bring a friend (okay my husband who is obligated by marriage) so we can check out separately with a coupon and buy a couple of the items I need on discount.

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Hobby Give Back:

Okay there is not exactly always a return policy on a hobby you’ve invested in, but there is no reason to not get a little return on a hobby you tried and maybe it was not for you. Make a Meet Up, Start a local Facebook event, or get together with friends and see if you can trade unwanted hobby materials. Facebook has come out with a “Marketplace” where you can sell items like a garage sale. There are even stores that are dedicated to buying your leftover hobby materials to resell. You may even develop some friends to be inspired by in your journey.

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Upcycling

There could be items lying around your house that can be used for your next hobby. You may even find items at a garage sale for a fraction of the price that pertain towards your hobby. For example in the picture above, an old lunch box was upcycled to be an electrical housing for a fishing boat. This person saw a new need in order to grow in their hobby and was able to modify an already owned item instead purchase something brand new.

Don’t let costs of a hobby keep you from pursuing it, dream big, open your mind to new possibilities, and try that hobby. It could be your calling. A high percentage of the time there is always a way to save money when starting or continuing to pursue your hobby. Any other discounted ways to start a hobby I missed? Did you have a hobby you did not start because you were worried about cost?

Don’t have a hobby yet? Check out my list of people to inspire you and your next hobby here. 5 People To Inspire Your Hobby

Get Inspired to Find Your Motto Today

I have always loved the quote “Live, Laugh, Love” but I see it everywhere. So I wanted to make it more me. Now, I have no clue if this quote has been made before because great minds think alike, but this is the motto I have molded out of the “Live, Laugh, Love” quote to make it more about my life.

Maybe you’re that odd puzzle piece out of the picture that can’t seem to find its fit. That is okay! Be your own picture, follow your own motto.

Live to Laugh

Laugh with Love

Love to Live

Live to Laugh

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My entire life laughter has been my drug. I laugh at myself, I laugh with friends; I even laugh in awkward situations. That’s just me and I used to be embarrassed by it. I could find humor in just about anything, sometimes causing me to be the only one in a room laughing. People would look at me and say “Wow you laugh a lot.” Seems like a weird statement to make but who am I judging. It’s not like I am running around screaming “Fire!” a lot. Its laughter and it is good for you. I have learned to love myself for it, as it is a cure for the worst of days. A good laugh for me can change my attitude completely for the rest of the day.

Laugh with Love

Laugh with love

Even though I laugh a lot I try not to do it at any ones expense. I would rather laugh with you and not at you. To share a laugh with someone is sharing a wealth that is priceless. My best friend and I sometimes will laugh until we are crying and the rest of room is staring at us like we are crazy, but her and I get each other. We love to laugh together. Those moments mean the world to me. Finding someone who understands your silly is such a blessing and I hope everyone has this person/persons in their life. My other best friend, my husband, somehow loves me no matter what weird noises, sayings, or quirky things come out of my mouth. When I am down he knows just how to make me laugh or smile again and it’s all for love.

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Love to Live

I am still trying to find myself but I have learned to love all my own and life’s oddities along the way. My growth to loving myself for who I am has come with a lot of reflecting on my past and appreciating it all as a learning experience rather than beating myself up over things I can’t change. Find the good in what made you who you are now. Today I am a stronger person than I was yesterday. Loving what life hands me is not always easy, but it is something I strive to do every day. With a tendency to stress about every choice I make I am determined to learn to let go and just Love to Live. I want to travel, meet new people, find my true passion and only loving to live life will get me there.

Times in life I need inspiration to push through things, take on new adventures, or live my dreams. I hope this quote inspires others too and gets you thinking about your own motto. If you do not have a motto think about your favorite things to do. What in your past has defined who you are today? How have you been a better person because of it? What are your dreams and the things you do each day to reach them?

What inspires you?

I would love to hear your motto. Share it with me in the comments below or on Facebook.

Want more inspiration? Check out my blog about 5 People to Inspire Your Hobby.

4 Thoughts on The Phrase “Just Google It”

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4 Thoughts on The Phrase “Just Google It” When it Comes to Google Vs. Human Interaction

Maybe I am just getting to the point where I use the expression “Back in my day” or I am just not with the times, but when someone uses “Just google it” as an answer to my question with no deliberation at all it’s upsetting. Sure Google is handy in certain scenarios, but I don’t believe it should be the immediate answer to all. Don’t get me wrong I love Google it has proved my point, saved my homework assignment, and helped me find the solution to my most deliberated first world problems time and time again. Most of my job and hobbies consist of having my face in the computer and living in the digital world. So when an in person human conversation arrives at my front door I encourage full engagement.

This is difficult if one or both parties prefer to talk to Google about it.

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TO PERSUADE A DEBATE: Helpful

When someone confuses one actress for another and you just can not let them go on thinking that, then google is an awesome way to prove them wrong, or right. How about those history buffs who pride themselves on knowing the dates of key historical events or when that president was born. Put two of them together and there may be an argument needing solved over the correct date then google is your man, or woman, to provide the third party answer. Debates are healthy and bring all sorts of topics to the table. So I’m grateful to have google to help solve these debates and educate all parties involved for future conversations. Even if some topics are silly they obviously mean something to those discussing them and others. If Google has the answer then someone somewhere had to have thought of the discussion before. Although don’t get sucked into the deep dark hole trying to get your answer and forget you are in a room with your friends. Use Google to keep the conversation flowing then get back to the conversation.

ALONE AND NEEDING ANSWERS: Helpful

When it’s easy to have another misconstrue your email and take a feeling about it you weren’t trying to portray I’d prefer to call a person and discuss something with them over the phone. There is not always that opportunity to make a phone call in my office setting so typically I have to send an email. If you stare at words long enough or haven’t written them in a long time it’s easy to become paranoid that you are using the wrong version of it. Google provides that two-second double check to ease your mind.

Sitting alone in your office trying to write a memo to the entire office and realize how embarrassing it would be if you used the wrong form of a word or misspelled it? Well pop right over to google and check the spelling and definitions of the word. At least when you accidentally hit “Reply All” and not just “Reply” your over shared email will have its spelling and grammar on point.

While reading a book you come across a word you do not know, why not google it to learn something new? By all means grow your vocabulary.

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FACE-TO-FACE CONVERSATION BLOW OFF: Hurtful

At the office you ask your boss or superior for their wisdom or knowledge, then they reply “Just Google it.” It’s frustrating, especially if they look at you like your stupid for not thinking of that. Sure, googling it would be my fall back but if there is an opportunity to have a no technology face-to-face conversation. WHY NOT? I am respecting you in basically assuming you have an input or knowledge and can start an educational conversation. So you choose to basically divert an intellectual conversation to google? I can google just about anything, but what if I come out with the wrong solution to the situation? It seems that for just about every right answer on google there is three wrong. So why leave it up to chance if you can ask someone who can or should know the information you’re looking for? Especially if the person you are asking started a business in said subject.

MEDICAL ISSUES: Hurtful

I hear it over and over again in a casual conversation people telling others to google their symptoms. EEEK speaking for my hypochondriac self (google diagnosed) Don’t Do It! Even the strongest hearted person can lead themselves down a deep dark hole of their symptoms and come out of it in cold sweats of fear. There are too many related symptoms in different illnesses that you could have the common cold but think otherwise. Okay I realize temptation gets to us sometimes we think heck if I could only ease my mind maybe I can convince myself out of going to the doctor. 9 times out of 10 I end up clicking link after link until I am convinced I have something horrifying. Medical diagnosis seem like their best left to the Dr. Or educated individual who will want to see and talk to you in person to rule out the possibilities.

I am in no way telling you what to do with your google abilities. Do what makes you happy, but don’t compromise your reality and make google your all-knowing guru that is the only source of information. Don’t find yourself telling someone else to “Just Google It” as they were probably asking you the question to start a conversation, which is a difficult thing for some of us introverts trying to be extroverts.

Any other thoughts on Google involvement in our everyday conversation? Are there pros and cons in your mind as to people’s ability to split second Google something you’re conversing about? Does it help or hurt your day to day interactions?

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5 “Spoiler Alert” People You Should Avoid Conversation With

spoiler alertAs an avid Netflix and Redboxer I have become a generation of human that waits for the major TV shows and movies to come out on those platforms. Sometimes I wait months from the release date other times its years from the release date, but all I know is it takes great ninja technique to avoid spoilers in the news, on social media, and in public. That is why when I have done my best to avoid spoilers I very much dislike those people who ruin it in a second for me after all that hard work. Some of you might say “Hey if you’re going to be cheap and not pay for the immediate entertainment than you deserve it.”, but I think it’s resourceful. Gone are the days that I pay for cable just to get 85 % of channels I do not watch, along with commercials galore, and the movie options provided are a rip off. I just cannot justify paying extra all the time to see a movie as soon as it comes out. Sure every once and a while I will splurge for a theatre movie, but that is what makes it so fun is that it is such a rarity.  When I do go to a movie I will fully commit. Going full out, purchasing all the snacks to get the total experience. Otherwise I will wait, holding my breath, that I do not run into one of the below type of people ready to spoil the waiting method I have developed.

The Bragger

It’s almost as if they want to be the first to see the movie to boast to all. This bragger feels as if they do not clarify that they saw the movie before you that you won’t believe them. So what do they do?  They describe how great it is and in turn release some sort of news about the movie or TV show like the climax or the ending that no one would know unless they watched the movie. Whether it is in a review article, a YouTube video, on Facebook, or in a person to person conversation this person has to divulge details about the program they watched in order to be a part of the so called “saw it first” group therefore ruining the movie or TV show for us few “peasants” who have not seen it yet.

The Conversational Code Speaker

At a party with all your friends and the conversation turns to what you’re all currently watching, it’s your turn to spill, but wait, your one maybe two seasons behind the rest of them. Suddenly the room is quiet the group is staring at you in disbelief that you are not caught up on the series. The conversation either comes to an awkward halt because the group does not want to ruin the current season for you, or the code talk begins. The group starts talking in code specific to that series. “Did you see so and so in the last episode, and what they did with so and so?” another party goer describes to the other, “Yeah, Yeah, it made me cry so much!” someone responds. Now you’re stuck in the torcher of not being able to be a part of the conversation, but also not wanting to ruin the show for yourself. They begin to proclaim the show’s most iconic quote and all you can do is stare and hope even the code talk does not ruin the show for you. It may even break you and you just burst out in “Oh just tell me already! It won’t ruin it for me!” There is usually someone who slips up and lets out the most pivotal moment of the TV show or movie before you even ask.

The Blurter

The blurter, at least in my reaction with them, is typically in the conversation at a party like described above, but occurs when the tables are turned and no one else has seen the movie or TV show this person brought up. As you all go through the shows you have seen in common and laugh about the “inside jokes” you share because of the shows dialog. You somberly talk about your favorite character that was killed off and how much you miss them. Finding a TV show or movie in common with your friends is so gratifying, but if you’re that lone person out it’s almost like a struggle to climb your way back in to the conversation. People react differently to this scenario, they might find a different conversation to join, smoothly transition the conversation in a direction they can relate to, or they become the blurter. This person struggles to push the conversation in a different direction and maybe tries to bring up a different TV show. “Oh, yeah, like in the ending of the show LOST?” The group stares at them blankly, “Did you guys watch LOST?” Everyone at the party responds “No.” still staring blankly. Then it is almost like this person goes in to a panic. You can see the gears turning in their head that their drowning the conversation and then boom it happens like word vomit. They blurt out what happened in the ending and the show is ruined.

The Binge Watcher

Netflix and so many other platforms like Netflix that place their business model around a monthly fee and unlimited, commercial free, content at your fingertips, have now begun to come out with their own series. This has created the new animal called the binge watcher. These new to the scene type shows come out with an entire series released all at once which has changed the game. Now you never know what episode someone could be on the series compared to you because it all comes down to the time that particular person has to free reign the show. Before you knew if that person was watching the same series as you that they at least could not be ahead of you and cause a spoiler to happen as the shows released week by week. I’ll admit it I am a binge watcher. If one episode ends on a climax that is so uprooting to the show I do not have the mental strength to hold out even a night before I want to watch what happens in the next episode. When the 4 part mini-series of Gilmore Girls was released on Netflix I had already re-watched the original series 3 times and that was with in the month before the new mini-series was released. I cannot even count how many times I had watched it before then. So I told myself I would take my time with the new series. I would only watch one a week. As the release of more episodes was such a dream come true I did not want to rush through it like so many other series on Netflix before it. The dance you and other binge watchers do to determine if you’re on the “same page” of the show is a spoiler waiting to happen. Asking each other what episode you’re on will never work as a binge watcher almost never knows. They get so sucked in to the show they just roll on through episodes not paying attention until it’s over. So as you attempt to figure out what episode each other are on you begin describing major events in each episode. It’s like Russian roulette of spoilers until all the sudden one of you is further than the other and slap there is the spoiler for the other person.

The Recapper

When someone asks me if I saw a movie and I have not, I tell them no, but I refuse to ask them what it’s about in fear that they are that one person who always tells the story in a way that gives away the entire movie. Kind of like those movie previews that all the good parts of the movie are in the commercial. If your friends saw a movie but you’ve never heard of it of course you’re going to ask for a snippet to see if it sounds like a movie you want to see, but oopsie your friend ends up sharing the entire story trying to explain the movie to you.

All in good fun don’t worry movie and TV show spoilers we still love you. Just try not to share your spoiling talents with the rest of us. What do you guys think, do you have a friends or family members who do this? Are you this person? Do you know a different type of movie or TV show spoiler type?

I’d love to hear from you.

5 People To Inspire Your Hobby

 

Why not be inspired by the exact hobby of someone you know. They can provide you with a great advantage of advice on what to do and what not to do in starting the hobby. Whatever you fear is holding you up from starting a hobby could be the same hurdle another person had to jump to get where they are today. What could it hurt to ask them how they got over it? If their hobby is not exactly what you want to do let it inspire a new hobby of your own. Either way working together with others to get your hobby going can encourage them to grow, and get your feet off the ground with your interest as well. Whether it is a hobby or life lessons the five following people in your life could be great sources of wisdom.

A Co-Worker or Boss

A while back I had met a couple at work and quickly discovered that if they wanted to do something they went for it. I watched as their passions ensued on Facebook and all the joy it seemed to bring to them. And no I am not just talking about the portrayal of happiness some people try to keep on Facebook. I am talking true happiness of experiencing following their dreams and it poured from their attitudes at work. They were interesting, encouraging, and downright inspiring. We quickly became friends and they truly motivated me to take on my interests in full force even if I feared failure. I learned a lot from this couple as they seemed to have short term and long term goals for their hobbies. They would set their little goals to get to the ultimate final goal and made it happen every time. This couple has gone through several hobbies now some have stuck and some have been put aside, but they do not regret any of the experiences they’ve had along the way. These type of people in my perspective will have advice about several different types of hobbies and can give good guidance about what to do and what not to do to get started.

A Sister or Brother-in-Law

A great example of Hobbybacking (hobby piggy backing) my sister-in-law loves baking. I on other hand do not have a baking bone in my body. What I do have is the love that she loves baking therefore I try to encourage her hobby with baking gift baskets full of fun new baking things. Gift baskets, a hobby? Of course it is and if your hobby can make other’s hobbies thrive than even better. Not only is it a hobby but if you love it enough it could become a business. You do not have to have anything in common with someone in order to relate with their hobbies, you just have to want to support their hobbies. This in my experience will always give you some sort of learning experience towards your own hobby or passion.

Your Best Friend

She has kids, she works out, her house is immaculately clean, and works a full time job. Yet she still finds time to have a hobby. Here is a perfect opportunity to hone in on her ability to do it all and while you may not enjoy the same hobbies. She may still have some amazing tips on how she does it. I find myself coming home from an 8 to 5 Forty hour a week job and I am “too exhausted” to do anything. Yet there is so much more time in the day to do a hobby; obviously so if my best friend, on top, of her job gets so many more things done in a day. So if you’re not interested in her hobby at all at least hone in on her skill to make use of all hours of her day and then some. All in all she may feel great just knowing that some one sees her efforts to have it all together.

An Aunt or Uncle

I have learned a lot from every single one of my wonderfully talented Aunt’s and I appreciate all of their hobbies. As a tomboy growing up, shopping was never really my niche. Then when my parents sent me out to North Dakota to visit my Dad’s side of the family his eldest sister taught me really how therapeutic it is. My Dad’s other sister taught me to enjoy the little things, she could find joy in just about any activity, making it her own. While their hobbies range all over the board I have learned so much from each and every one of them, and most of all received tons of words of wisdom along the way. My parents are absolutely inspiring in their own way, but sometimes hearing their brother and sisters ideals on life can open your mind to a different perspective.

Teens/Kids

A younger generation’s view on things could be just what you need. It seems a little off beat to think about it, but kids sometimes have the greatest hobbies.  Maybe it’s because they haven’t been sucked into the adulthood duties yet and have extra free time or they do not have the responsibility of bills yet. There is nothing blocking their imagination from adult reality opening their minds to all options. Sometimes as adults we stunt ourselves from reaching for the stars because the real world has truly slapped us in the face hard.  As education evolves so does the extracurricular activities offered or made available for children and teens. Maybe it’s a hobby you can do with your kids, nieces and nephews, and family that everyone enjoys. Possibly your hobby is supporting your kid’s hobby, but all that matters is it’s something you enjoy yourself.

While it’s easy to see what someone has or does and be jealous of it, it’s much easier to create a crowd of people around you that you support and they support you, sharing in each other’s hobbies. Trying new things with your friends and family may not start your next big life change but they can create lasting memories. I want to hear who inspires you. Any other people you would add to this list? What hobby have others inspired you to do?